tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post6337562989107091591..comments2024-01-01T08:56:57.641-08:00Comments on Periphery: Back That Truck Up!TangledLouhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-72342208324179469012012-01-26T09:58:22.530-08:002012-01-26T09:58:22.530-08:00I know what you mean about the crippling self-cons...I know what you mean about the crippling self-consciousness. Keep writing, it's delightful to read and no one has your voice but you, right? Says me. I, too, have a truckload of posts hanging out in draft form that I'm too chicken to publish. But, considering a few months ago, I was too chicken to publish anything at all, I think maybe we'll get past it? Thank you for your encouragement and for stopping by!TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-57457119279762207412012-01-25T19:27:35.052-08:002012-01-25T19:27:35.052-08:00I'm glad you wrote this post. I really am. I&#...I'm glad you wrote this post. I really am. I'm totally in that space where I'm figuring out where I stand because my blog (and my relationship with blogging) has transformed now that I know other people are reading it (and I know the people who are reading it). It's easier to write for strangers sometimes. I've been increasingly self-conscious about my writing lately. Some days it's crippling. But other times I just hit publish and I'm glad I did. I wrote a post about judgmental parenting a while back and I almost didn't publish it. I sat on it for a month and when I did I was shocked at the response. Anyhow, keep writing what you want to write. I love reading it!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17061585160412939803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-19141804333100039812012-01-24T10:32:21.895-08:002012-01-24T10:32:21.895-08:00I'm with you on the insecurity thing. I'd ...I'm with you on the insecurity thing. I'd love to read that post sometime. Drop me the link when you get a chance.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-2857370873217681302012-01-24T08:07:41.342-08:002012-01-24T08:07:41.342-08:00There's nothing quite as a cleansing as a good...There's nothing quite as a cleansing as a good rant, is there? And totally with you on the #1 thing especially. I actually wrote a post a few years ago about the vehehmence of the judgments we make against other parents having its foundations in our own insecurities. If we are confident in our own decisions, we will have no trouble with decisions (that don't actively threaten the safety of children) other people make. I completely stand behind that assessment and work really hard at not letting my own insecurities get the better of me in that way. (Of course, I'm knocked upside the head by my insecurities in a bazillion other ways...but that's a story for a different day.)Masked Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08197019009052401812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-3032312383215959282012-01-23T11:11:09.782-08:002012-01-23T11:11:09.782-08:00Perplexing, indeed. I don't do kind things for...Perplexing, indeed. I don't do kind things for people for any sort of recognition or reciprocation, but it is sad to me that some people are so guarded that they find random kindness suspicious.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-41617484631162659462012-01-23T11:10:10.692-08:002012-01-23T11:10:10.692-08:00Thank you, you are so very kind. I am laughing try...Thank you, you are so very kind. I am laughing trying to imagine what a how-to life handbook written by yours truly would read.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-56718778626339132442012-01-22T13:59:25.858-08:002012-01-22T13:59:25.858-08:00I completely identify with #4! Usually I just tell...I completely identify with #4! Usually I just tell people I'm hangin' out in the 3rd quadrant (political compass reference) with Gandhi. I try to be kind always and I'm always a little perplexed at how someone can refuse a kindness when it's offered freely and with no obligation.Just Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02861216483398553225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-49600368691141611452012-01-22T13:20:38.515-08:002012-01-22T13:20:38.515-08:00I absolutely adore you and I think you've just...I absolutely adore you and I think you've just earned the right to write the official how-to life handbook. Wait. I think you already did. Be kind and be gracious about accepting the kindness of others. Yep, That would do it.<br /><br />I'm beyond delighted that you wrote a GBE post! Happy, happy, happy, me, me, me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-75163222408666894342012-01-22T12:25:30.662-08:002012-01-22T12:25:30.662-08:00Wow! Thank you so much for stopping by and for you...Wow! Thank you so much for stopping by and for your kind words. I really appreciate it.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-6879874211513958762012-01-22T06:53:15.746-08:002012-01-22T06:53:15.746-08:00I don't think I can verbally express how much ...I don't think I can verbally express how much I love your rant. And the phrase "Back that truck up" I'll be implementing it into my vocabulary :). Parenting, kindness and being mindful what we say...All great topics for a rant! No need for an apology.Sabrinahttp://www.muchneededadvice.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-45889135821598555592012-01-21T19:25:07.263-08:002012-01-21T19:25:07.263-08:00Thank YOU for the laugh! And I really apologize fo...Thank YOU for the laugh! And I really apologize for just about everything. It's kind of a default state for me.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-31169813993478335762012-01-21T19:24:21.581-08:002012-01-21T19:24:21.581-08:00And we are very hysterical about our snow here. We...And we are very hysterical about our snow here. We don't very much, very often and it's kind of a big deal. However, Snowmageddon might be exaggerating a bit.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-35557553323823664372012-01-21T19:14:39.671-08:002012-01-21T19:14:39.671-08:00"Gurl you rant good, won't you back that ..."Gurl you rant good, won't you back that truck up!!! Your blog's a big fine woman!!"<br /><br />Thanks for the laughs and the warm, solid thinking. <br /><br />Snits are part of life, no apologizing. <br /><br />xoxoMarie at the Lazy Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11499662322233018616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-33277496337233817992012-01-21T18:44:30.111-08:002012-01-21T18:44:30.111-08:00So's your face.So's your face.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-84100406343998121152012-01-21T18:44:15.824-08:002012-01-21T18:44:15.824-08:00You are welcome. I stay out of most parenting disc...You are welcome. I stay out of most parenting discussions because I am woefully inexperienced. I appreciate the back-up from someone with both personal and professional experience.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-29053259765376513132012-01-21T18:42:57.006-08:002012-01-21T18:42:57.006-08:00I actually kind of believe that, too. I think you ...I actually kind of believe that, too. I think you can find a reason in everything, like "I needed to learn..." from this situation or whatever. Like I said, bit of a snit. :)TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-21145137244552496712012-01-21T18:41:49.450-08:002012-01-21T18:41:49.450-08:00Same here, Jewels. I would suspect it's the sa...Same here, Jewels. I would suspect it's the same in a lot more families than people let on. I don't know when parenting became a competitive sport, but it's so damaging.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-57089527311243608782012-01-21T17:42:00.544-08:002012-01-21T17:42:00.544-08:00We watch too much TV, eat at McDonalds, I'm wi...We watch too much TV, eat at McDonalds, I'm wishy-washy on the chores thing and have said, and even blogged about, how my kids sometimes annoy me. Fact is, this is my family and I'm doing the best I can. So, thanks for validating that I'm not being abusive.Julie DeMillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17929034148906710834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-86703651557887328552012-01-21T17:30:12.501-08:002012-01-21T17:30:12.501-08:00I also have issues with ranting about parenting, s...I also have issues with ranting about parenting, similarly to Red Dirt Kelly. I must confess to having been guilty of some of these, specifically saying "Everything happens for a reason". I know it's cliche, but I also truly believe that, and sometimes, in the moment, it's hard to know what to say. Ya know? Do people say 'snowmageddon' in Seattle? Pshaw, come to northern Canada people!cdnkarohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12300104667616840616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-16898805115084297232012-01-21T15:34:28.988-08:002012-01-21T15:34:28.988-08:00I think a catharsis rant against any of the above ...I think a catharsis rant against any of the above is not only well-founded but helpful. For example, in the #1 area, I teach in the human development and family science area. I have conditioned myself to be so protective of my "go off on them right now; go off big time..." feelings, that I now ignore and gloss over anything having to do with parenting. It's like I have parenting post PTSD. I literally feel emotionally reactive when I see headlines, comments or any of that crap you just listed, so I withdraw and hide. I have not yet ranted. I think because I wasn't sure where to do it. So your articulation of that helped me and I truly thank you.Red Dirt Kellyhttp://www.reddirtchroncles.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-47952793962318824142012-01-21T13:20:02.025-08:002012-01-21T13:20:02.025-08:00You are very fortunate that you live 2000+ miles a...You are very fortunate that you live 2000+ miles away from me. Just saying.<br />Don't close up your corner of the interwebs. Nobody wants that.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-13910631216311366742012-01-21T13:19:15.568-08:002012-01-21T13:19:15.568-08:00Re: abuse: I think a lot of people are sheltered f...Re: abuse: I think a lot of people are sheltered from the perspective gained from actually witnessing abuse or the results there-of. Before I had my monkeys I worked with the mentally ill and so many of them were victims of such heinous abuse. I think a lot of people don't realize just how bad it can be. In some ways maybe it's a good thing if the worst thing someone can think of is a child eating candy for breakfast.<br />Re: kindness: I, too, mostly encounter very kind and wonderful people. I think that's what makes the others stand out more.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-84068718134683350482012-01-21T13:15:47.110-08:002012-01-21T13:15:47.110-08:00Thank you for validating my ranting. It's an u...Thank you for validating my ranting. It's an uncomfortable thing for me. I'm terribly opinionated about a good many things and always try to measure it with trying to see from the perspectives of others. Sometimes I just need to let it out.<br /><br />I never thought about the Seinfeld/Soup Nazi connection before. Perhaps that's the source. Or the more insidious Rush Limbaugh "feminazi" nonsense.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-13830583616382181112012-01-21T13:13:21.185-08:002012-01-21T13:13:21.185-08:00You can do that math and I'll just keep saying...You can do that math and I'll just keep saying hi to strangers.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-22771570034295090182012-01-21T13:12:56.888-08:002012-01-21T13:12:56.888-08:00Amen!Amen!TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.com