tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post4665174420441097063..comments2024-01-01T08:56:57.641-08:00Comments on Periphery: The Balancing Act I DoTangledLouhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-36555302232235658292012-02-01T11:00:20.374-08:002012-02-01T11:00:20.374-08:00Thank you. I believe I am the lucky one in that si...Thank you. I believe I am the lucky one in that situation.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-17953061821094439112012-02-01T08:45:18.694-08:002012-02-01T08:45:18.694-08:00Sounds like your little Jbird is lucky to have you...Sounds like your little Jbird is lucky to have you!Vesuvius At Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02783271096885148080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-87330782869096348442012-01-31T09:26:47.447-08:002012-01-31T09:26:47.447-08:00Thank you, Judy. She is all of those things and mo...Thank you, Judy. She is all of those things and more. I am constantly amazed by her.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-38687873436700585992012-01-31T09:26:17.725-08:002012-01-31T09:26:17.725-08:00Thank you. I think I handled it well... that time....Thank you. I think I handled it well... that time. Sometimes the balancing act fails and I fall spectacularly, or I forget to even try. It's unrelenting, this parenting thing.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-13875240199459405272012-01-31T09:24:39.620-08:002012-01-31T09:24:39.620-08:00Sometimes she has a wise Mama. Sometimes she has a...Sometimes she has a wise Mama. Sometimes she has a tired Mama who yells.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-80113186023887611772012-01-31T09:23:56.101-08:002012-01-31T09:23:56.101-08:00Thanks ladies. It's always amazing to me to fi...Thanks ladies. It's always amazing to me to find the common things that we all share. I have a conversation with my daughter, write about it, and then I suddenly am connected to people all over the place who understand why that conversation means something. It's enriching and reassuring.<br />Cdnkaro - I agree, acceptance is so important. I fear I have a harder time with that than I should sometimes.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-26215565573107721962012-01-31T09:20:23.632-08:002012-01-31T09:20:23.632-08:00Thank you, I really appreciate your kind words.Thank you, I really appreciate your kind words.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-37499225491436259832012-01-31T09:19:44.090-08:002012-01-31T09:19:44.090-08:00You are kind to say so. She is indeed beautiful. I...You are kind to say so. She is indeed beautiful. I'm the fortunate one to have been graced with this magical little person.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-16550726939497069942012-01-31T09:18:36.072-08:002012-01-31T09:18:36.072-08:00I am with you, I can forgive someone else anything...I am with you, I can forgive someone else anything. Not so much myself. When she said that, I vowed to work on my own self-forgiveness so that she could see it in action. That's what they really learn from.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-11640289725743958722012-01-31T09:17:17.837-08:002012-01-31T09:17:17.837-08:00Wow. Thank you. I wish I could remember that way w...Wow. Thank you. I wish I could remember that way with words (besides "Knock it off!") more often.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-61576211713559523052012-01-31T09:16:20.244-08:002012-01-31T09:16:20.244-08:00I have not mastered the art of heart guarding, eit...I have not mastered the art of heart guarding, either. It's rough, but I think our kids have a better chance of it. I also try to remind myself that even though they have traits that are similar to mine, they are actually their traits that they will deal with in their own ways.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-10068310222308986372012-01-31T09:14:27.297-08:002012-01-31T09:14:27.297-08:00Oh! Thank you! I really need a new leotard!Oh! Thank you! I really need a new leotard!TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-84083366366603425702012-01-31T09:14:00.822-08:002012-01-31T09:14:00.822-08:00This is the conclusion I have come to, as well. I&...This is the conclusion I have come to, as well. I'd rather hurt sometimes than be cold all the time. It's just hard to see my wee girl hurt, but I know it's just one of those side effects of living.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-71495532440648932382012-01-31T09:12:59.195-08:002012-01-31T09:12:59.195-08:00Thank you, Mark. You have so eloquently summed up ...Thank you, Mark. You have so eloquently summed up a large part of my parenting philosophy. I don't understand the notion of treating children like idiots - loud, baby talk voices, inane entertainment, etc. - when they are little sentient beings. No, they don't understand everything, but like you say, I believe if you just layer it on they will eventually get it and use it the way they see fit. But what do I know, really? I'm relatively new at this parenting thing and somewhat insane.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-58155435477625598302012-01-31T04:20:08.884-08:002012-01-31T04:20:08.884-08:00That's the thing about communication, open and...That's the thing about communication, open and sincere, from an early age. Even if a child doesn't fully capture the concept on the first go around, there is always the second and the third, and a child's mind sorts and classifies. There is so much overlapping, that the pieces of the jigsaw begin to fill in the picture. And then the little mind completes the mosaic on her own, choosing a path that may or may not mirror that of Mom/Dad. All a mom/dad can do is listen and respond accordingly. A very poignant piece of writing.Mark O'Neillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16295762252612104201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-63830193467122610512012-01-30T22:41:48.736-08:002012-01-30T22:41:48.736-08:00Even if having a big heart can hurt from time to t...Even if having a big heart can hurt from time to time, it is, in my opinion, a wonderful thing to have.mauishopgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08322893236734256761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-60131688384147551402012-01-30T20:54:46.228-08:002012-01-30T20:54:46.228-08:00I'm mentally sending you a balancing act kit. ...I'm mentally sending you a balancing act kit. Enclosed, please find one umbrella, a unicycle, a very long pole, an acrobatic body in case you've always wanted one, a leotard and metaphors galore. Handle with care...they're for special people.Red Dirt Kellyhttp://www.reddirtchronicles.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-17479777290643318422012-01-30T20:04:13.908-08:002012-01-30T20:04:13.908-08:00I'm with MM here - it is so hard to see yourse...I'm with MM here - it is so hard to see yourself in your offspring. I've been known to apologize to both of my children but especially to Sonny Boy. He has always had too much of me in him for his own good.....He tells me he is happy with ALL that he got from me. Wait til he has his own kids.<br />I have always been one like your jBird who feels too much - and so is Sonny Boy. I would see it in his face when someone else was hurting and it made me sad that he couldn't "guard his heart" more. But then neither could I.Graciewildehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00142582724233027386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-15636107828141843102012-01-30T18:58:46.233-08:002012-01-30T18:58:46.233-08:00It's so hard to see them hurt and harder still...It's so hard to see them hurt and harder still when we see so much of ourselves in them. I think jBird has an amazing gift in a mom who has such a way with words (and hearts).Masked Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08197019009052401812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-21142956205213405702012-01-30T18:37:18.595-08:002012-01-30T18:37:18.595-08:00Your daughter has an incredible heart and passing ...Your daughter has an incredible heart and passing this on to her by DNA or example is a gift. There is nothing as amazing as a mother willing to lay her flaws and gifts out to her children for their benefit. <br />I teared up when she said she couldn't forgive herself sometimes. It's a place I've been many times. Sometimes it's harder to forgive ourselves than it is to forgive others. Lori is right you are a wonderful mother with an amazing little girl. Pretty good balancing imhoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05185179151066136734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-84290929609937105022012-01-30T16:04:45.330-08:002012-01-30T16:04:45.330-08:00I had the exact same reaction. I think children ar...I had the exact same reaction. I think children are fortunate when their parents understand them, and more importantly accept them. That's all one can ask for. Excellent guidance helps too, though.cdnkarohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12300104667616840616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-15752725926416683832012-01-30T15:18:19.611-08:002012-01-30T15:18:19.611-08:00You're a fantastic mom and a wonderful writer....You're a fantastic mom and a wonderful writer.<br />Your jBird is beautiful and very, very fortunate. <3Lori Gomezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05569806921410155798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-55577874254554413702012-01-30T14:56:54.209-08:002012-01-30T14:56:54.209-08:00That brought tears to my eyes. You both sound love...That brought tears to my eyes. You both sound lovely.Dawnhttp://www.alphabetsalad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-2786167326132374652012-01-30T13:25:45.654-08:002012-01-30T13:25:45.654-08:00"Sometimes I can't forgive myself." ..."Sometimes I can't forgive myself." Her voice is small and tired and I blow my nose, because I know.<br /><br />And now I'm blowing MY nose because I know. <br /><br />I nodded and nodded and winced and nodded through this entire post.Just Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02861216483398553225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-24654021542539404762012-01-30T12:44:55.688-08:002012-01-30T12:44:55.688-08:00Oh, that is so hard to learn. Lucky for her, she h...Oh, that is so hard to learn. Lucky for her, she has a wise mamma who can help her along!Julie DeMillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17929034148906710834noreply@blogger.com