tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post1406192722046090296..comments2024-01-01T08:56:57.641-08:00Comments on Periphery: Uncovering SkeletonsTangledLouhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-25290788248278396582012-04-11T17:10:36.348-07:002012-04-11T17:10:36.348-07:00Thank you, darling. And thank you for your lovely ...Thank you, darling. And thank you for your lovely reminder of what we gain from losses. I needed tissue for that one, too! :)TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-66379414224089854592012-04-11T17:09:58.590-07:002012-04-11T17:09:58.590-07:00Thank you for playing writing games with me!
The...Thank you for playing writing games with me! <br /><br />The other versions aren't very interesting and don't much resemble this particular version. I think you're right about the rawness thing - loss is so personal and so universal at the same time. I can write about a specific loss powerfully, but it might not carry that same power for you because you haven't experienced that particular kind of loss. Peeling back the specifics to the raw emotion worked for me in this because the raw emotion, no matter the loss, is kind of universal. <br />Part of the reason also that I've been contemplating writing about loss is because I find that such powerful emotions are hard to write about without resorting to cliche or overused images. I think we have culturally developed a code for these kinds of things over time and it's hard to break out of those few images sometimes. I don't think I'm there yet, but still working on it.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-37059477050071651722012-04-11T17:05:33.468-07:002012-04-11T17:05:33.468-07:00Thanks, dearie.Thanks, dearie.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-2940664794002408742012-04-11T17:05:14.935-07:002012-04-11T17:05:14.935-07:00I'm so glad you stopped by so I could see your...I'm so glad you stopped by so I could see your wonderful blog! It's an interesting and good thing you're doing.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-70093966608457510942012-04-11T17:04:27.766-07:002012-04-11T17:04:27.766-07:00Yes, yes. Thank you for sharing this.
I don't ...Yes, yes. Thank you for sharing this.<br />I don't want to be the death of you, but I'm so glad you pitched in with yours. I can very much relate.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-63485524354612913322012-04-11T17:03:40.165-07:002012-04-11T17:03:40.165-07:00You should do it! I want to read what you write.You should do it! I want to read what you write.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-82773272033257737102012-04-11T17:03:19.398-07:002012-04-11T17:03:19.398-07:00You're welcome. Thank you for ponying up, yet ...You're welcome. Thank you for ponying up, yet again, for one of my little sweaty exercises!TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-32845673568868458562012-04-11T17:02:40.691-07:002012-04-11T17:02:40.691-07:00Wow! Those are such nice things to say.Wow! Those are such nice things to say.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-90768173181380801842012-04-11T06:22:31.898-07:002012-04-11T06:22:31.898-07:00Well done....I've read it several times. Prob...Well done....I've read it several times. Probably several more....with tissue on hand.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05754778263332756663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-9729531914312837692012-04-10T16:00:00.432-07:002012-04-10T16:00:00.432-07:00Thanks for the link-up, and for your version that&...Thanks for the link-up, and for your version that's been re-worked 4 times? A piece of me wishes we could see the other versions too, to see how you peel the layers, but I get it at the same time. This is your most raw version (so far?) and therefore your most powerful, and the one that most people will somehow connect to. This is good.Deb Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16419809243480266275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-7368603579743027712012-04-10T15:56:18.991-07:002012-04-10T15:56:18.991-07:00"Yes," is all I can really say. I hope t..."Yes," is all I can really say. I hope that means something close to what I really mean.Deb Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16419809243480266275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-29901898279923226982012-04-10T13:07:11.582-07:002012-04-10T13:07:11.582-07:00Beautifully painful.Beautifully painful.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08644569152748119356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-51499828668634789702012-04-10T12:13:12.641-07:002012-04-10T12:13:12.641-07:00Thank you so much, Lou. I really appreciate your l...Thank you so much, Lou. I really appreciate your linking to my blog in the post. I'd have participated, but I've already told my story. Not that I'd mind telling it again. I'll tell it over and over, until the world knows her name...but I think 'the world' might get bored of that. <br /><br />Wishing you all the very best, <br /><br />CaseyCaseyhttp://navigatingcyberloss.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-47633509496492634812012-04-10T11:40:04.658-07:002012-04-10T11:40:04.658-07:00You, YOU! will be the death of me. Or make me stro...You, YOU! will be the death of me. Or make me stronger, I dunno.<br />Here's what I wrote, after our little BlogHer interaction on loss -- I believe it is close to 230 words:<br /><br />I wish I was a drug addict. When I get this way, get to this stage, I wish I could snort, drink, smoke, sniff, shoot up with something – anything – to dull the pain. The kind of overpowering pain that mutates from emotional/psychological to an actual physical one, a tightness that grabs a hold of your insides and squeezes unrelentingly, a sadness so deep that it is beyond screaming or crying. If I had the guts, I would cut myself. But I swallow the bitterness, the ache, and the hurt, and turn my gaze outward, around me, in hopes of landing it on something, anything, to bring me back to the here-and-now. In some respect, I’ve gotten quite good at willing the pain away, at least temporarily. Because it is not fooled. This pain has a sneaky way of returning, in the most incongruous times, stemming from the most(seemingly) innocent events. It takes every bit of strength I possess to ignore that fact, to concentrate on the next step, and the next, and the next, until I am delivered from the inevitable abyss. But in moments like this, when my throat is so tight I can barely breathe, my eyes are burning from tears that won’t run, and my chest is about to blow up in an explosion of guts and forbidden memories, I wish I was a drug addict.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05477053024120321776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-20591481045888221042012-04-10T08:37:48.566-07:002012-04-10T08:37:48.566-07:00Beautiful. This is something that connects all of ...Beautiful. This is something that connects all of us, whether the loss is big or small. I kept avoiding this exercise, telling myself I didn't have anything to write about. I think I was afraid to uncover the very feelings you expressed.Julie DeMillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17929034148906710834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-20852037993036337752012-04-10T06:21:04.442-07:002012-04-10T06:21:04.442-07:00So raw it hurts to read it. You put us right there...So raw it hurts to read it. You put us right there with you. Thanks for sharing it with us.Masked Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08197019009052401812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-26689496099298333992012-04-09T21:45:31.149-07:002012-04-09T21:45:31.149-07:00Everyone is in bed now and I just re-read your poe...Everyone is in bed now and I just re-read your poem about loss and it made me cry... you have such a profound way with words, such an enviable ability to transport your reader into the visceral experience of your writing...Thanks!@NativeMikeAdamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08446931065863021549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-40524188722931486972012-04-09T20:48:57.829-07:002012-04-09T20:48:57.829-07:00That's a bit of an eerie coincidence. It's...That's a bit of an eerie coincidence. It's strange, but since I've been mulling over loss especially these last few weeks, the topic has turned up serendipitously in all sorts of places. <br />Thanks so much for sharing this beautiful piece of writing.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-47294585250681519792012-04-09T20:47:30.672-07:002012-04-09T20:47:30.672-07:00Yes, indeed. Thank you for stopping by!Yes, indeed. Thank you for stopping by!TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-54995855088142606812012-04-09T20:36:40.246-07:002012-04-09T20:36:40.246-07:00I finished this post today and published it. It ha...I finished this post today and published it. It had been sitting unfinished for almost a year and today I opened it, read through, changed, deleted and added. It is about loss, which surprised me when I thought to myself this evening..."I wonder what's happening on Periphery?" I'm pretty sure it is longer than 250 words...but it is on topic, albeit by accident!<br /><br /><a href="http://reasonable-thought.blogspot.com/2012/04/oneofthemostdifficultdaysinmylife.html" rel="nofollow">http://reasonable-thought.blogspot.com/2012/04/oneofthemostdifficultdaysinmylife.html</a>@NativeMikeAdamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08446931065863021549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2923792986438866285.post-68378976499414661122012-04-09T17:16:01.963-07:002012-04-09T17:16:01.963-07:00loss is definitely an area we all can relate too.....loss is definitely an area we all can relate too...Mrs. Pancakeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03441934318368344653noreply@blogger.com